Shifting Slowly

I want to talk about ‘choice’.  Someone said to me recently, “I had no choice.”  She was referring to not being able to see content that she didn’t want to see.  My response was simple, “just unfollow them.”  You see, we do have a choice. We always have choices.  I know we may believe we don’t in many cases or around certain people or with where we may find ourselves now, but truly, we always have a choice. We can choose to stay or go, yes or no, the blue over the red, south side to north side, 2 bedrooms to a studio, kids to no kids, single, married, gay, straight, fiction or documentaries, blue eyes, green eyes, clear eyes. We have choices all the time.

We just get in the habit of believing that if we’ve made one choice we can’t possibly change our minds. Who says? Who has told us this? Someone growing up? Friends? Society? God? No. Goodness, no. The difference between realizing you have a choice and choosing to stay in the situation you’re in is fear. Everything is fear of change. What will happen if I change my mind now? What if it’s the wrong decision? What if I fail? What’ll happen is a lot of things. First, things will change and who likes to change? Not many of us. But what will also happen is growth and darn it, that’s life, we gotta grow or we stay stuck. We stay miserable and in bad situations with years of regret.

I thank God every day we have choices. That we have free will.  That we get to choose this or that path. If it weren’t for choices, we’d all be walking around like true robots, living these mundane lives and not recognizing any parts of ourselves.

Choices help us grow. Choices are what guide us to our everlasting. For me everlasting means ever-growing. That I never stop growing and learning about myself. So when I get to choose to stop believing what I’ve been taught all my life and choose my own path, I learn about myself. I learn what I like and don’t like and choose to live the parts I like.

I think that’s why we have so many choices, why we live in color because we were meant to make this life our own. We were meant to pick and choose what works for us.

So don’t sit there telling yourself you have no choice. You choose it all and even if you have to choose it in fear, you do that for yourself because no one else is going to do it for you.  If you allow others to choose for you, you will always live in regret. If you choose based on the happiness of others, you will fail over and over. It is ok to choose yourself over anyone else. It is the way life was given to us.