If there is one hard thing I’ve learned in this short life of mine, it’s this; wish those that are no longer in your life, well. Those that once meant something, had a space in your life, had a piece of your heart. Those that left in silence but left us with so many words needing to be said. Those that spent days on end with us and then vanished like a magic trick behind an unseen trapped door.
It took time for my anger to settle before I could come to this lesson. I wanted so much to stay mad. To ask questions that would always go unanswered. To doubt myself and the type of friend I may have been. To wish bad things on them. I wanted them to suffer like me. To miss me more than I them. As time went by the memory of them faded. The anger began to subside and I’d come upon a memory of us. A time where we were together, chatting, sipping coffee, laughing. And I felt how good that felt inside of me. How feeling good was so much easier than anger. How my insides suddenly settled. My shoulders dropped, my face softened, my teeth unclenched and I felt like a cloud floating. I felt peace.
Why was I wishing them bad? They had lost me as much as I had lost them. I mean something. I am a person of value. My friendship is loyal and grounded and light and fun. They may go off and find a version of me but I am the original and there are no copies. I too will go on and find pieces of them in others but they were the original and all I have left are our memories. All I have left are the times I said, I’ll never hurt you. And that promise lasts even after they are gone. Wishing malice on someone. Wishing suffering, that is not human. That is not love. We are meant to love unconditionally as we’d like the same done for us.
God is pure love. There is no malice in Him. And how often do we leave His side. How often has He wished malice on us or was angry at us for leaving? Not one time. 1 John 4:7-8: “Beloved, let us love one another, for love is from God, and whoever loves has been born of God and knows God. Anyone who does not love does not know God, because God is love.” A scripture on God’s anger; Micah 7:18: “Who is a God like you, who pardons sin and forgives the transgression of the remnant of his inheritance? You do not stay angry forever but delight to show mercy.”
Therefore, brothers and sisters, those that believe in God or not, does not much matter because the truth is, we are from God. Created by Him. So love is in all of us and we are the epitome of love because we are made in His image- Genesis 1:27: “So God created mankind in his own image, in the image of God he created them; male and female he created them.”
So forgive those that have left. Remembering that you matter too. That you are of value. Show mercy to others. Let them move on, even passed you and always wish them well.
Shifting Slowly 
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